Here we are in week 4 of the Green Moms Weekly blog carnival. This week’s question is “Why is it as important to begin your journey as an attachment parent during pregnancy as it is after the birth of your baby?” Don’t forget I’d love to hear what you have to say on this topic! Feel free to link up at any time this week!
Our babies are brought into this strange new world suddenly during a process called birth. We are all familiar with the scene on television with a woman screaming in labor, lying on her back with bright white lights and a team of medical experts counting during contractions. In the next scene a baby is born only to have the cord cut immediately, and be quickly whisked away to be cleaned, measured, weighed, poked prodded and more. Does this sound like a fun first day into a new world to you?
Life doesn’t have to begin this way for any baby. In order to have a more peaceful entrance into this world mom and dad must do their research and be prepared. Attachment parenting, in particular, begins at the moment of conception. Mom must prepare physically, mentally and emotionally for the birth of her new baby.
The key to preparing is to become educated. Education is as important for mom as it is for dad as he will be the support you will need during your labor. Having the education that you need to understand how and where you can give birth can make all of the difference in that first moment of bonding with your baby.
Picture this, your baby is born in a quiet dimly lit room or tub and is immediately placed on your warm chest and given the option to begin nursing right away. The cord is cut only once the baby has received all of the ever important cord-blood into his/her body and baby instantly forms a strong bond with mom. Your baby is left undisturbed on your chest for the first few hours of life and only then is weighed and measured. This is the root of attachment parenting. Your baby has been physically attached to you for 9 months and now, just because baby is in the outside world doesn’t mean things have to change.
So, what are your first steps to becoming educated so that the physical attachment that you have with your unborn baby doesn’t have to end at birth? I highly recommend starting out watching a simple documentary movie called “The Business of Being Born.” This movie was my true introduction into the world of childbirth, beyond what we see on television. And now, although I have only seen clips, there is a new series available called “More Business of Being Born”!
Next it is so important to read! I know it may seem like you have a million things to do with a new baby on the way, but the effect that your education will have on you and your family is well worth the time invested. My favorite recommendations are Husband Coached Childbirth, Your Best Birth, and Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth.
Finally, I took a natural birthing class, which was the best money I ever spent! I am so happy that I took the time to become educated. The class helped me to choose the right birthing location for me and to draft a birth plan that worked for my family and my choices. As a result, I have had two wonderful birth experiences, you can read about them here and here.
My introduction into the world of attachment parenting began with my education about childbirth and the bond of breastfeeding, of course. I learned that babies who are brought into this world and are given the best opportunities to bond with their mother will be happy, healthy and will thrive! This goes hand in hand with breastfeeding, as it is not just the most perfect nutrition for your baby, it is also an experience that provides baby with the necessary closeness and bonding that is the basis of your relationship.
Read what other green moms have to say on this topic:
Carrie at Natural Moms Talk Radio
Tiffany at Nature Moms: Attachment Parenting During Pregnancy